At the beginning of the school year, in September, I attended a school program for the handing out of bus patrol belts. It was in the gymnasium. I sat next to a grandfather, the father of a close friend of mine. He’s the grandfather to one of my oldest daughter’s best friends. We chatted. He and his wife visit often, so through the years, I have gotten to know him. He is quiet, but funny when he speaks. His love for his grandchildren and his family shines. Trying to amuse my youngest during this presentation of belts, I let B play around with my iPhone, which could amuse him for hours. He snapped some photos of our friend while we sat there.


Recently, that grandfather discovered that he had Stage IV lung cancer. The doctors said six months.
Yesterday morning he passed away. Unfortunately, there wasn’t six months.
There never seems to be enough time. But in the end, it’s not that there isn’t enough time to get through all those “to do” lists. It’s that the time is ending when all you want is more time with family and loved ones, more time with friends, more time to laugh, more time to love, more time to live. In the end that’s all that matters.
I always wanted to know the story of his tattoo and I never asked. I should have asked. I had promised to do some family photos for my friend and her father, for the grandchildren. We talked about it only a week ago.
We thought we had more time.
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6 comments
I’m so sorry Aileen.
This post is so sad and I’m sorry to hear of your loss and my heart goes out to the family. Thanks for reminding me that life is short, and that we should live it to the fullest. I hope you are all staying strong together during this difficult time
All those stories…I think it’s why I always ask even when it seems a little pushy. I want to know the stories.
My thoughts are with you and his family.
I’m deeply sorry for your loss, Aileen. And for “grandpa’s” family too. The “C” word is something that has affected my family as well. A little too much for my liking! It sounds like this gentle man touched many lives with his kindness, and humor. I feel that it’s important to treasure the moments we do have; remember the joy and uniqueness of each individual we meet. It develops our humanity and love. Life is precious. This brings it all home when a loved one passes on. So very sorry. Sending love and condolences to you and all that knew him.
I’m so sorry. What a personal and touching post.
I’m so sorry. But thank you for taking the time to post this. Life is too short. Sometimes we need to be reminded.